Fostercare & Adoption

Here is our journey going from 0 kids to 5 kids in 6 months!

It starts, of course, with God's intervention and ends with God's ultimate and always-better plan!

October 2008 (Brian) and January 2009 (Shannon): Saved or “adopted” by God, (click here for our story)


v God is a God of adoption, He adopted us into eternal inheritance:

oRomans8: 15 For you have not received a spirit of slavery leading to fear again, but you have received a spirit of adoption as sons by which we cry out, “Abba! Father!”

oEphesians 1:5 In love, He predestined us for adoption as sons through Jesus Christ, in accordance to the kind intention of His will— 6 to the praise of His glorious grace, which He has freely given us in the One He loves.

December 2009: Visited FL Baptist Children's Home for their Open House


vWe are to love our neighbors and will report to the King how we cared for the “least of these”:

oMatthew 22:37 Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ 38 This is the first and greatest commandment. 39And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’

oMatthew 25:40 “The King will reply,‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.’

January 2010: Stopped contraceptive (for good!) and signed up for MAPP class (1st step in becoming foster/adoptive parents). Began PRAYING!


vAs Christians we are called to sacrifice ourselves and follow Jesus:

oLuke 9:23 And He was saying to themall, “If anyone wishes to come after Me, he must deny himself, and take up his cross daily and follow Me.

oGalatians 2:20 I have been crucified with Christ; and it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the lifewhich I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself up for me.

 September 2010: MAPP classes


v We are to care for the orphans:

oJames 1:27 Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself unstained by the world.

oPsalm 68:5 A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling.


April 2011: Began paperwork and Foster Parent Homestudy


vWe are commanded to make disciples of all nations:


oMatthew 28:19 Therefore go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit,


June 3rd 2011: Licensed as foster parents with the State of Florida (for up to 3 children)

v Our personal licensing


oOriginally up to 3 children then up to 5 children (we quickly sold our 5-seater small SUV and bought an 8-seater minivan to accommodate more children)
o  Any child 0-12 yrs old

o Any race, nationality, or ethnic background

o Any behavioral, emotional, social, mental, medical or physical disability

o Any abuse, neglect or drug exposure history

v Commit to LOVE, it is not always love at first sight

o We made a commitment to love ANY child God brought to us (and in turn we committed to say, “yes” to ANY placement call for ANY child)

     o We were tested on the commitment….MANY times.

o We also committed to adopt any child that may come up for adoption in our home.

     o God’s commitment to us is unwavering. He grants us eternal life, not from any work we do, but based on His grace and love alone. è Ephesians 2:8 For by grace you have been saved through faith; and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God; 9 not as a result of works, so that no one may boast.



June 10th 2011: Placed with sibling group of 3 children, Uribe 9, Yukehily 7, and Ludian 4. They showed up 72 hours after placement call.


 

September 9th 2011: Placed with 6 week old infant, Hailey (license amended up to 5 children). She showed up 24 hours after placement call.




December 21st 2011: Placed with 10 month old infant, Ky’lin (maxed out foster house!) He showed up 1 hour after placement call.


 

May 30th, 2012: Adopted our sibling group of 3, now Anthony 10, Mirabel 8, and Risa 5. (click here for Anthony's story, Mirabel's story or Risa's story)




June 21st, 2012: Adopted Ky’lin, now Titus at 16mo old. (click here for Titus' story)




October 31st, 2012: Adopted Hailey, now Magdalene at 15mo old. (click here for Maggie's story)




Here is a video of all 3 adoptions that took place in 2012! 


November 1st, 2012: Foster license closed due to 5 children in home.



June 1st, 2013: Adoption Homestudy expired, we chose not to renew.


 

November 28th, 2013: God opened our hearts to adopting again!




December 3rd, 2013: We inquired about a 7yr old Chinese boy, Turner, through a private, domestic United States adoption in Michigan.



December  10th, 2013: Our family was chosen as his new family and we rushed to have our expired homestudy updated.


 

February 12th, 2014: We picked up Turner in Michigan and met him for the first time. We were considered his pre-adoptive placement and were closely monitored by our privately hired social worker during our legal 90 day waiting period. 



May 21st, 2014: Adopted Turner, now Samuel, at 8 years old. (click here for Samuel's story)



Here is the video of our adoption of Samuel! 


January 23rd, 2015: We were contacted by a Wendy's Wonderful Kids recruiter regarding a 10 year old girl with many special needs.



January 25th, 2015: We reviewed her child study, said "yes" and we scheduled for our expired homestudy to be updated.



February 16th, 2015: We met with her case team and met Brittney for the first time. We traveled many more times between February and May to visit her and attend her doctors appointments.



June 9th, 2015: Brittney got to come home with us. We were considered her pre-adoptive placement and were closely monitored by the State during our legal 90 day waiting period. 



September 11th, 2015: Adopted Brittney, now Anna, at 10 years old, two days before her 11th birthday. (Click here for Brittney's story)




  Be led by God, not FEAR!


v  Are you seeking God’s perfect will and plan or are you carving your own around your fears?

o   Psalm 46:1 God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. 2 Therefore we will not fear, though  à psalm 46:2-9 lists numerous things to be fearful of, then

o   Psalm 46:10 “Be still, and know that I am God;”

o   Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. 12 Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you.”

o   Proverbs 16:3 Commit your works to the LORD, and your plans will be established.

o   Proverbs 16:9 The mind of man plans his way, But the LORD directs his steps.

v  Be anxious for nothing! (“can I parent an unruly 10yr old?” “will I love one not born of me?”) PRAY!

o   Phillipians 4:6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

o   Hebrews 11:1 Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see.

o   1 Peter 5:7 Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.

o   Phillipians 4:19 And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.

o   1 John 5:14 This is the confidence which we have [l]before Him, that, if we ask anything according to His will, He hears us. 15 And if we know that He hears us in whatever we ask, we know that we have the requests which we have asked from Him.

 Our very quick journey from 0 to 5 kids felt like this:

Foster children's journey from neglect and fostercare

to adoption, told by foster children:




The real and hard truth of adoption mixed with the beauty:



Posted by Shannon
Soli Deo gloria - Glory to God alone
  

19 comments:

  1. So awesome to watch God move!

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    1. Amen! We would never be where we are today if it wasn't all God!

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  2. Oh my goodness! What a beautiful story of faithfulness and obedience to your call. So glad to have met you here and learned about your beautiful story!

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    1. Thank you Marie! Obedience is so enormously rewarding when we choose to follow!

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  3. What a fun family! Enjoyed reading your timeline.

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    1. Thank you! I loved reading your blog full of stories of your "adoption pregnancy" and I eagerly await, with you, the arrival of your two beautiful girls!

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  4. We went from no kids to 3 in 5 months all from foster care. Got our oldest 1hr after placement call....severe medical neglect 10 month old. His twin sisters came to us at 10days old from NICU 5 months later. 1 month after TPR we found out we were pregnant with a biological child we were told we would never have. On paper we had 4 kids in 2011, 3 through adoption and one by birth. Just found your blog and I look forward to reading more. I love seeing how God pieces families together!
    God Bless,
    Sarah

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    1. You know exactly my feelings as a abrupt-whirlwind-"welcome to parenthood" type foster parent! It was so difficult for me to adjust! But on God's strength through Christ all things are possible! Thanks for visiting us!

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  5. Is there any way I can talk with you via email? I'd love to learn more about how you do it! I've only been a foster mom for six months and the kids are about to leave. You're family is so like minded and your testimony is so similar to my husband and mine. I am so encouraged by your blog and thankful God led me to it. I'd love it if we could exchange some emails or letters. Thanks so much (either way) for your faithfulness, wisdom/advice, encouragement and frankness about your family's faith and journey. I've been reading it like crazy for two days and keep telling my husband "read this! Watch this! Can you believe this? Guess what!" What are the odds of God leading me to your blog at just this time with you being so likeminded in faith and family practice? I know it's providence! To God be the glory!
    Thanks for your testimony,
    Amy G (from Tx)
    My email is amylhecht (at) gmail (dot) com

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    1. It's been so nice talking to you and catching up with you on your blog :)

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  6. Thank you for your breath of fresh air!!! We are in the process of adopting 4 foster children. (Lord Willing by Christmas). Thanks for the reminder to out my faith in the Lord and not to be discouraged. We also have 3 boys of our own.

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    1. What a sweet compliment! Praise God on our huge Christmas blessing!!!

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  7. Thank you for sharing your time, your knowledge and your wonderful blog!!! Thank you., More Blessings and *GOD BLESS*
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  8. I bet the REAL parents of those children would love to have them back...just saying! It is sad that you can enjoy someone else's pain so much!

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    1. Guess what? All these parents are "REAL" parents. Do you mean birth parents? They are real too. Of course the birth parents love their children and probably would love to have them back. These children are not led to believe otherwise. The adoptive parents are open and honest from what I read here. You must see joy here, yes there is pain and guilt, but they have accepted it all.

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  9. Wow, that is so rude of that unknown person to say that! :P I only barely started looking through your blog but it is clear that you love your children and have made it clear to them that they are important and loved, in a way that does not put down their previous parents. Sometimes people are just not able to be the parents whom their children deserve and in that case other parents step up like yourself to take care of the kids.

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  10. Great post. Nice to see this. Adoption now-a-days becomes very common matter.Child Adoption is a lucky matter. Everyone not get it. So contact to a good and trustful agency is must be needed for safety. I also want to tell you that I live in Florida. Child Adoption is a lucky matter. Everyone does not get it. There are best adoption agencies Florida is "Gift of Lift Adoptions".

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